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John J. Xenakis gets 15% in run for Auditor for State of
In an astounding result, John J. Xenakis received some 277,000 votes
in his run for State Auditor of Massachusetts on election day,
November 5, 2002, or 15% of the total vote. Xenakis, an independent,
was virtually unknown in the state, and ran against the solidly
entrenched Democratic candidate, Joe DeNucci, who has held the
position for 18 years. DeNucci received 78% of the vote, and the
Libertarian candidate, Jain, received 7% of the vote.
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- Having Sons Shortens Mothers' Lives
- I guess those darn feminists were right about the patriarchy
harming all women, but even the feminists didn't tell us that it
happened in the womb. That seems to be the conclusion of a study by
researchers at the University of Turku in Finland.
The study analyzed life, death and births among a group of Finnish
nomads during the period 1640 to 1870, and found that the life span
of mothers was reduced by about 34 weeks per son, but was extended by
a daughter who grew to adulthood. Having three daughters offset the
negative effects of having one son.
"Boys are usually born much heavier than girls," said Samuli Helle,
the study's co-author.
"It seems that boys are much more demanding to produce than girls."
5/10/02 AP story).
- Harvard University to Require Corroboration in Date Rape
- Harvard University's faculty has unanimously approved a new rule
that will require eyewitnesses, physical evidence, and other
"sufficient independent corroboration" before it will agree to
investigate a date rape accusation. Previously, a simple
uncorroborated accusation by a female student was enough to trigger
an investigation. (See
5/8/02 Boston Globe article.)
This is a welcome change from the hysterical hyping of date rape that
feminists have pursued -- ignoring false charges of rape and
claiming, for example, that over 25% of all college girls are raped,
when the actual figures are well under 1%. (Click here for more info.)
- Bush Administration to Support Single-Sex Education
- Reversing three decades of a really crazy federal policy, the
Bush administration yesterday announced its intention to encourage
single-sex education in the nation's public schools. (See
5/9/02 Washington Post article.)
Like most people, I believe that the best education is in
coeducational classes, for most children. However, that's not true
for all children, and that's where the craziness comes in. I recall
an experiment in Detroit where teen boy gang members with a history
of violence were put into single-sex classes, so that they could learn
without the distraction of having girls around, and the experiment had
to be discontinued because of this crazy federal policy which said
that single sex classes are illegal.
Whether a child goes to a single-sex or coeducational school should
be up to the child, the child's parents, and the local school board;
having the federal government stick its fist in that decision is
- The Left's Marriage Problem
- The normally pro-feminist Washington Post has an editorial
today, "The Left's Marriage Problem," criticizing NOW and other
feminist organizations for opposing Bush's initiative to encourage
single mothers to get married. After encouraging liberals to have a
healthy debate on the subject, it says:
>> But much of the left, and particularly the feminist left,
doesn't seem interested in such a conversation. ... The possibilities
are broad, yet the liberal reaction has been narrow: "Shotgun welfare
betrothals" is how Robert Kuttner put it in the American Prospect.
The antipathy was perhaps quickest and most insistent from the
National Organization for Women. "I think back to when I was a
teenager, and I would hear my grandmother's friends say, 'Honey, when
are you going to get married?' " says NOW President Kim A. Gandy. "I
would no more say to someone else: 'You ought to get married,' as
though I knew what's best for them."
>> Excuse us, but helping poor people navigate marriage is not the
same thing as putting old-fashioned pressure on middle-class girls to
The editorial also points out that "For decades, welfare discouraged
marriage among the poor."
In my opinion, this could be stated more strongly: For several
decades, the welfare system has been paying women to dump their
husbands (children's fathers), thus actively discouraging
marriage. If it's OK to discourage marriage for three decades, then
encouraging marriage for a few years can't do much harm, and may do a
lot of good. (See
4/5/02 Washington Post editorial.)
- Women Incumbents in House Vulnerable This Year
- 1992 was the "Year of the Woman," allowing a record 19 female
newcomers to enter the US House of Representatives. However, women
incumbents of both parties are expected to have a very tough fight
this year, according to analysts. (See
4/2/02 Christian Science Monitor story.)
- Enron Men to get Equal Time
- A week after Playboy invited Enron's female employees to
pose nude for a future issue, Playgirl is making the same
offer to the company's male employees. "We would prefer sexy
photographs, any form of undress or anything that's sexy," said
Playgirl editor-in-chief Michele Zipp. (See 4/2/02 New
York Post article.)
- Web Surfers Searching for Sex Sites Less Often
- People using Internet search engines are searching for
sex-related or pornographic web sites less often than in 1997;
instead, surfers are directing their searches more to commerce,
travel and employment web sites, according to a Penn State study of
internet surfer habits. (See
4/1/02 CNN.com article.)
- Barbara Johnson Runs for Massachusetts Governor on Fathers'
- Barbara Johnson, a lawyer who has represented many divorced men,
is determined to try to change the system. She's thrown her hat in
the ring as an Independent candidate for Governor of Massachusetts.
Check out her web site and her platform at http://www.falseallegations.com.
- Black Women Bemoan Shortage of Black Men in College
- There are more women than men going to college these days --
college students are typically 55-60% female.
But the difference is even more pronounced at black colleges, whose
students are 65-70% female.
It's a dream come true for black college males. "I'm going to be
moving," said one. "I'm going to have girls in and out of my room."
3/31/02 AP article.)
- Feminists Should Blame Feminists' Bad Policies for Murder of
- Eileen McNamara's column today blames men in general for the
murder of a woman last Tuesday. In a column entitled, "Preventable,
not inevitable," she says that if police arrested men who violated
restraining orders, so many women would not be murdered.
Violating a restraining order is a criminal act for which the
offender is supposed to be arrested. It's the law. It was enacted
a decade ago to put some teeth into the enforcement of such
orders, which are, after all, only pieces of paper. But Cotter
wasn't arrested, even though a warrant was issued....
We have been wringing our hands about the judicial response to
domestic violence in this Commonwealth for 16 years, ever since a
pregnant young wife turned up dead in the Lexington dump. ...
''If he's determined to kill her,'' we still say, ''there is
nothing anyone can do to stop him.'' It is just not true. If Tom
Ridge, the director of Homeland Security, can devise a system to
rate the daily level of threat from international terrorism, we
can find a system to keep women secure in their own homes. We
cannot do that, however, until we decide to take this brand of
domestic terrorism seriously. (See
3/31/02 Boston Globe column by Eileen McNamara.)
I've sent the following e-mail message to the columnist:
Subject: It's your feminist friends' fault
Feminists oppose mandatory jailing of batterers because
experience has shown that it reduces funding for women's
A second reason that feminists oppose mandatory jailing of
batterers is that it would mean that some women batterers would be
jailed as well, also reducing funding for women's shelters.
Both reasons have a common denominator: Money for feminists.
Feminists would rather have the batterers out on the street,
where they'll batter more women, and provide more funding for
I know it's easier to bash men, but it's your feminist friends who
are the problem.
If you don't believe me, check with feminist researchers Eve S.
Buzawa and Carl G. Buzawa, both Professors of Criminal Justice at
the University of Massachusetts-Lowell.
John J. Xenakis
I've been studying all sorts of feminist policies for over ten years,
and they all have something in common: Feminists are more interested
in money and political power than protecting women.
It's time we start placing the blame where it belongs: It's feminists
who don't want batterers arrested.
- More Boy-Bashing in Public Schools
- Public school officials, citing so-called zero-tolerance
policies, are punishing young boys with suspension and even criminal
charges, for playing traditional boys' games like cops and robbers or
even "tag." In one case, four kindergartners were suspended for
three days for pointing fingers, pretending to shoot one another.
Washington Times article.)
This reminds me of the 1995 case of Johnathan Prevette who was
suspended from school because he kissed a six-year-old girl classmate
on the cheek. I still remember the feminist talking head on TV
saying, "It's just a kiss now, but it could be rape when he gets a
little older. We have to send these boys a message as early as
These are all examples of the boy-bashing that's been going on the
last ten years or so, and since I have a son, it infuriates me. This
boy-bashing is being done by moronic school teachers, almost all of
them women, who haven't a clue about how boys think or act, and think
that if they bash boys enough, they'll get boys to spend their free
time playing hopscotch like the girls.
There are two good books available for those who want to learn more
about the problem of boy-bashing in public schools: The War
Against Boys : How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men by
Christina Hoff Sommers and The Wonder
of Boys : What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys
into Exceptional Men, by Michael Gurian.)
- Hundreds of Enron Women Contacting Playboy
- A day after Playboy magazine announced it wants to publish a
"Women of Enron" issue, hundreds of current and former Enron
employees contacted the magazine to find out more about possibly
becoming a nude model. "If it pays the monthly bills, hey, you have to
do things to pay the bills," says one 33-year-old woman. "So, I have
no problems with it." (See 3/26/02 MSNBC
article and also see
3/25/02 Playboy press release .)
- Judges Making More Personal Demands on Defendants
- Judges in gender cases seem to be handing down more imaginative
and more personally invasive sentences.
A New York judge as ordered a non-custodial mother to stop smoking --
even when her son is with his dad -- if she ever wants to see her son
again. Johnita DeMatteo's 13-year-old son Nicholas, who lives with
his dad, had complained to the judge that he couldn't stand going to
visit his mom because her apartment smelled of cigarette smoke. The
judge ruled that she can't smoke in her own home or her own car "at
any time," because her secondhand smoke could pose a health risk to
her 13-year-old son.
A man who has fathered 12 children by 11 different women, and who
owes tens of thousands in child support, was forced to agree to a
plea agreement that prohibits from ever having sex again. Luther
Crawford, 49, would have gone to jail for multiple counts of flagrant
nonsupport, but now can't have sex, even with a condom or if he has a
Both defendants are considering appeals. (See 3/26/02 New
York Post article, and the 3/26/02
Associated Press article.)
- Female Law School Student Sues Professor over Sexual Harassment
- In the ultimate irony, a female University of Virginia law student
has filed a lawsuit accusing her male professor of committing assault
and battery against her.
His alleged crime? During his lecture last fall, Professor Kenneth
Abraham touched the shoulder of Marta Sanchez, in order to illustrate
a legal principle. That's what he thought it was. But to her, it
was a caress that caused her to experience disturbing memories of
rape, pregnancy and abortion she suffered in her native Panama. The
lawsuit seeks $25,000 in compensatory damages and $10,000 in punitive
damages. (See 2/26/02 AP
I've previously written about how frivolous charges of sexual
harassment have hurt women. In the early 1990s, following the Anita
Hill accusations, the workplace hostility between men and women
became so great because of frivolous sexual harassment claims that
women were considered untrustworthy, and millions of jobs were closed
If women want men to take sexual harassment seriously, then women
have to take sexual harassment serious themselves, by criticizing
women who make these trivial charges.
- Why Did Jane Swift Bow Out?
- Last year, Jane Swift became acting Governor of Massachusetts,
and gave birth to twins several months thereafter.
Last week, Jane Swift announced she wouldn't run for Governor in
2002, and, as usual, the debate is not over whether she's a good
Governor (few people think she is), but whether she was forced to bow
out just because she's a woman.
The announcement by Swift, a Republican, coincided with another
announcement, this one by multi-millionaire Mitt Romney that he would
run for Governor. Romney made a name for himself in 1994 when he put
up a strong fight against Ted Kennedy for Senator, the only
Republican in many years who wasn't simply squashed like a bug.
Romney is just back from serving as Chairman of the Salt Lake
Olympics Organizing Committee, and the thought is that if Romney came
close to beating Kennedy, then adding the Olympics cachet might make
him a strong Republican candidate for Governor.
However, the analysis that Romney might be a better potential Governor
than Swift didn't enter the mind of Boston Globe woman
columnist Eileen McNamara, who says Swift never had a chance, because
men had it in for a woman:
It's hard to know which is more enraging, the presumption of
a rich, white man that he can buy the governor's office or the
misogyny of a political culture that makes it impossible for a
woman even to try to earn it.
Forget the polls and the tolls. Forget the long commute and the
young children. In the end, Swift was undone by the insidious but
impressive ability of those ''powerful men'' we've heard so much
about lately to set the political agenda in this state. Money men
backing the horse with good teeth and deep pockets. Campaign
consultants orchestrating a sense of suspense around the most
predictable political announcement in recent history. Media
mouths, male and female, devoting ink and air time to her weight
gain and his star power, mocking her record while ignoring his.
(The Olympic Golden Boy is ambivalent about abortion rights and
anti-union? Gee, who knew?)
Woman columnist Joan Vennochi, who previously criticized Democrats for not supporting women, also thinks it's all about gender, but she says
that it's women who had it in for a woman:
Did Swift let women down by dropping out instead of facing off
against millionaire Olympic hero Mitt Romney? That suggestion
makes me mad to the bone.
Women did not support Jane Swift. Why should Swift sacrifice one
additional ounce of professional sanity, or one more minute of
precious family time, to support them?
Blind loyalty is not the issue. Women need not vote for a
candidate simply on the basis of gender. But let's not pretend the
attacks on Swift had anything to do with economic policy. What
male politician ever took heat for a no-tax pledge?
In the technologically advanced 21st century, the female MO
remains remarkably base and savage. Women beat up on the woman who
achieves a certain status and position; then, they beat up on her
all over again when, hurt and humiliated, she staggers off to
However, male Globe columnist Adrian Walker checked with a
Democratic contender for the same office, the current
Treasurer Shannon O'Brien:
"I think it's tough being in politics in any event," O'Brien
said, adding that she believes Swift's troubles are attributable
to something other than gender.
"I think ultimately that it was just some poor decisions that she
made. I think that led to a lot of the problems with the public's
perception of her leadership ability."
So she doesn't believe that Swift was undone by gender. She cited
Swift's response to the events of Sept. 11, in particular, as one
of many missed opportunities. While the governor's actions were
well-received for a while, O'Brien thinks she displayed a
dismaying inability to communicate, especially with her
subordinates at Massport.
"One of the things you have to be able to do is you have to be
able to pick up a phone and talk to people," she said. "I don't
think it's a male or female quality; it's just you.
"One of the criticisms I had of Jane Swift after Sept. 11, she
didn't pick up the phone and have a conversation with
[then-Massport executive director] Virginia Buckingham. This was
at the center of a national and international crisis. There were
questions about politics, there were questions about whether the
right management team was in place. If I was governor, I would
have been talking to her every day."
O'Brien says Swift has been guilty of excessive timidity, and
that there are lessons for women, and men, in Swift's rocky
Only the third of these three columnists even addressed the question
of whether Jane Swift would make a good governor. But what's even
more bizarre is that all of them take the politically correct
position that there's no difference between men and women except a
few body parts. Any man who's ever been in a relationship with a
woman, and any woman who's ever read a book on relationships, know
that men's and women's minds are very different, that they think and
act differently, and have different motivations. In Jane Swift's
case, the governor's office is in eastern Massachusetts, in Boston,
and her home, including her househusband and young twins, is in
western Massachusetts. Does Jane Swift miss her kids more than a
male governor would? You bet. (See
3/20/02 Boston Globe column by Eileen McNamara,
3/21/02 Boston Globe column by Joan Vennochi, and
3/28/02 Boston Globe column by Adrian Walker.)
- Was Andrea Yates Just Getting Revenge?
- I watched the prosecutors' closing arguments on TV, and they
made some very powerful points which not one single newscast has ever
mentioned. The prosecutor was telling the jury why he believed they
should find Andrea Yates guilty of capital murder for killing her
The prosecutor pointed out that the Andrea had been planning this
mass murder for months, and had deceived everyone about her plans --
her husband, her husband's mother, her doctors, her kids, and anyone
else she knew. It was a long, well-conceived plan that she followed.
The prosecutor then said that we don't know her motive in killing her
children, but one possible motive is that she had wanted to get even
with her husband for being so poor. If she had simply killed
herself, then he would still have the kids, but without her; by
killing the kids, she deprives him of the kids. ... Click here to read more
- Should Dear Abby Have Reported Child Porn Suspect?
- The recent news story about Dear Abby tipping off the police
about a man suspected of possessing child pornography bothers me at
many levels. (See 3/14/02 Boston Globe story).
Before dealing with the Dear Abby situation specifically, it's
worthwhile reviewing some disturbing things about child sexual abuse.
I've been dealing with gender issues for 15 years, and many of the
stories I've heard, especially those involving child abuse, have been
truly sickening. I've heard stories of 30 year old men having sex
with 13 year old girls, and I've even heard a story of a 40 year old
men having sex with an 8 year old girl. These men are truly abusive,
and ought to pay for their crimes.
But I'm truly bothered that a 20 year old male having consensual sex
with a 15 year old girl is considered to be rape and child abuse.
Indeed, how can it be child abuse for a 20 year old male to have
consensual sex with a 15 year old girl, when it is not child
abuse or rape for a 15 year old male to have consensual sex with a 15
year old girl? It simply doesn't make sense.
(And of course I note in passing that the 1971 movie, Summer of '42, is
considered a beautiful coming of age story of three boys and an older
woman in wartime, and actually earned an Oscar nomination. By
contrast, the 1997 movie
Lolita, discussed below, is considered controversial. Both
movies portray adults who would be considered rapists, pedophiles, and
child abusers, but in Summer of '42 the pedophile perpetrator
is a woman, so the movie is not considered controversial.)
Even worse, two 15 year olds could be having consensual sex perfectly
legally, but a day later, on the boy's 16th birthday, he could
suddenly turn into a child abuser and rapist in some states. That
doesn't make sense either.
A related issue is the "Lolita" factor. Anyone who saw the
starring Jeremy Irons as Humbert Humbert and Dominique Swain as
Lolita, is aware that an adult man must protect himself against
seductive, predatory teen girls, or have his life destroyed.
It's this issue of self-protection that I'm really addressing here.
In Lolita, Humbert suddenly becomes Lolita's guardian, and she
has to live with him. He becomes obsessed with her, and she becomes
obsessed with seducing him. In Humbert's case, the only possible
form of self-protection is to rid himself of the girl, and in real
life that may well be what any man in that situation must do to
Self-protection comes in many forms. Someone once told me, "There's
something wrong with everybody," and I've often been grateful that my
addiction has been to chocolate, rather than to drugs or alcohol or
little girls. But there's no doubt that some men are sexually
attracted to little girls.
Many -- and by that I mean almost all -- of these men are undoubtedly
honorable. A man in this category undoubtedly knows that acting on his
impulses would destroy not only his own life but the life of the girl
Still, how does such a man protect himself? This brings me to my
concern about Dear Abby's betrayal of one of her readers.
Based on information that has been published, this man was very
troubled by his sexual attraction to his girlfriend's young
daughters, and he wrote to Dear Abby for advice. Based on the
information that's available, he's never acted on his attraction, he
did the honorable thing in seeking advice, and she turned him in to
the cops anyway. He was trying to find a solution to a problem, she
decided to destroy his life.
The cops came and found and found pornographic pictures of children
on his computer, and arrested him on charges of possession of child
Presumably, this man had been using child pornography as a means of
discharging his sexual tension, to protect himself, and reduce his
obsession with the girls.
What should he have done? If a man finds himself attracted to a
young girl, what's the "right" thing to do? Should he just turn
himself in to the police?
I would have advised him to dump his girlfriend, get rid of her and
her daughters, and date someone else who doesn't have daughters.
Indeed, I can't imagine what other path he could have followed.
But Dear Abby didn't advise him to do that. She betrayed an
honorable man, turned him in to the cops, and destroyed his life.
It's worth pointing out that the current Dear Abby is the daughter of
the original Dear Abby, who is the sister of Ann Landers. I've read
Ann Landers occasionally for decades, and she's become increasingly
hostile to men as time has gone on, especially since her own divorce.
It's pretty clear that a man should think hard before trusting any of
these women to give him advice.
- Syphilis Rate More Than Doubles in New York City
- Reported cases of syphilis more than doubled in the city from 117
cases in 2000 to 282 cases 2001. However, the increase was apparently
almost entirely among men having gay sex, raising prompting concern of
a possible resurgence of AIDS and HIV infections.
(See 3/7/02 Newsday article.)
- Unmarried UK Soldiers Allowed To Keep Girlfriends Overnight
- A new UK army policy will allow unmarried soldiers to spend nights
in the barracks with their girlfriends. Accommodation will also be
made for romantic weekends.
(See 3/5/02 Sky News article.)
- Monica: Affair With Clinton was 'Cool'
- Starting an affair with the President was "incredibly exciting,"
according to Monica Lewinsky, whose affair with President Clinton
began in 1995 when she was 22.
Her attitude at the time was "OK, whatever, I'm young, that's the
president, he is cute, that's kind of cool, irresponsible but cool."
- Get a Quickie Divorce -- Online!
- A new online service http://CompleteCase.com provides for
quickie online divorces, for just $249.
Here's how it works: One party or the other answers all the necessary
questions online. Then both parties sign the papers and mail them in
to the court. And voilà! You're divorced, often without even
having to appear in court.
Restrictions: You have to live in California, Washington, or Florida.
The divorce has to be completely uncontested, and you both have to
agree to the terms.
The online service can be used even if you have children. It
automatically generates child support calculations, and completes
parenting plans and all other forms needed. (See 3/1/02 World
News Daily article).
- NOW disses SI Swimsuit Issue
- It's always a pleasure to read the latest whining opinions from
the National Organization For Women, and
we wondered what the ladies would think of the Sports Illustrated
Swimsuit Issue. Well, I'm disappointed to say that the review,
written by communications director Lisa Bennett, indicates that NOW
is not pleased.
The "advertisements appear to be conjured by some very insecure men,
the kind who worry that size does matter," she discovers, bemoans the
fact that women and sex are used as sales tools for "alcohol, and its
ever-present phallic bottles."
"The most offensive layout in the entire magazine must be the last
one, depicting models wearing bathing suits made of bizarre
materials," including cactus, money, cigar bands, coffee beans, chili
papers, silver and jade. The message is that "women's bodies are
nothing more than a commodity to be bought and sold." (See 2/22/02
- Men Become Grumpy Because of Hormones
- It turns out that men become grumpy and irritable later in life
because their testosterone levels go down, according to a study by
the Medical Research Council's
Human Reproductive Sciences Unit in Edinburgh. (See
2/27/02 BBC News article.)
- Men Taking to Wearing Pantyhose
- No statistics are kept on who buys pantyhose from retail stores.
But online statistics are suddenly revealing a startling statistic:
That a large number of women's hosiery sales go to males, many of
whom place two orders -- large sizes for themselves and smaller ones
for their wives. One company, Comfilon, sells pantyhose made
exclusively for men. "There's a whole underground culture of normal,
mainstream guys who wear hose," says Chief Executive Steve Katz. He
says that he sells hundreds of thousands of dollars a year worth of
their pantyhose brand, which has male-specific features such as a fly
in front. The company's motto: "Comfilons are not your mothers
(See 2/19/2002 Wall Street Journal article.)
- Poll: Scottish Children Reject Spanking
- A survey of over 1,300 youngsters across Scotland found found that
94% of them were convinced that other ways of disciplining children
besides spanking them and smacking them were available, and they
preferred adults to use alternatives to hitting. (See
2/21/2002 BBC News story.)
- Suicide Rate Highest for Divorced Men
- Men commit 80% of the suicides -- and most of them are by
divorced men. According to divorce lawyers Richard and Paula Stone,
it's harsh treatment by the divorce courts that drive divorced men to
suicide. "One case involved a child who wasn't even born and the
mother said the ex-husband couldn't have anything to do with the
child, but expected and got full child support from her ex after
their child was born. The anxiety and the alienation imposed on these
gentlemen is extreme. They become very depressive." They added, that
family law has changed drastically over the past two decades. "Women
can reopen a spousal support case any time. It's very rare, if the
wife doesn't want to give up custody, that men will be granted much
more than visitation rights. For fathers who were involved very
closely with the raising of their kids, it's really hard to get their
heads around the fact that they'll only be able to see their kids
every other weekend. They get really depressed and they have
absolutely no place to go for help. I often suggest they seek
2/15/2002 Toronto Star article.)
These findings are reinforced by my own findings that a significant
number of divorced men express the desire to see their ex-wives
killed (e.g., by a traffic accident), and by other studies that show
men feel significant hatred for their ex-wives. For some men, this
results in violence, but for many more others, it results in
- Men Outperform Women on General Knowledge Tests
- Two recent studies lead to a politically controversial result:
Men consistently outperform women in general knowledge tests, even in
categories typically thought to favor women, such as fashion. In one
test, 19 domains of general knowledge were tested. Women scored
significantly higher than men in Cookery and Medicine; For scores on
Popular music, Film and Fashion, there is no association with sex, In
the remaining 14 domains of general knowledge (History of Science,
Politics, Sport, History, Classical Music, Jazz and Blues, Art,
Literature, General Science, Geography, Games, Discovery and
Exploration, Biology, and Finance), men did significantly better.
2/22/2002 National Post article.)
- "You Stole the Land - May as Well Take the Women!"
- In The Village Voice
this week, about one third of the "women seeking men" personal ads are
from Palestinian women wanting to meet Jewish men who will take them
back to Israel. No one quite knows what to make of it. "There seems
to be something orchestrated here, but orchestrated for what purpose?"
wonders one Jewish activist. (See
2/12/02 New York Post article.)
- Is Your Girlfriend Corybantic?
- The word of the day was "corybantic" a few days ago on the
Merriam-Webster dictionary web site. It means "wild," and it's
derived from the ancient goddess Corybant. It's a great word, and
should come in handy in many situations. (See
Merriam-Webster's Word of the Day for Jan 25.)
- UK Plans Possible Changes in Parental Contact Laws
- Making Contact Work, a report by the United Kingdom's Lord
Chancellor's Department is recommending that mothers be fined or
otherwise sanctioned for flouting court-ordered visitation orders.
A proposal to recommend that joint physical custody be used more
often was rejected without further study, however.
Feminist groups rejected the report, claiming that "fear of abuse"
was the major reason that mothers violate court-ordered visitation
orders. However, the authors pointed out that that subject was fully
covered in a recent previous report devoted exclusively to contact
between children and violent parents. "The focus of the present
consultation is on cases where domestic violence is not an issue.
However, where domestic violence is relevant to the present
consultation, we deal with it," the report says.
The report stresses "the importance of maintaining contact" with the
non-custodial parent, and the damage caused by acrimony in this area.
The court process came under fire for being "slow, unpredictable and
adversarial, with the consequence that the disputants became, if
anything, more entrenched in their respective positions at the end of
the proceedings than they were at the outset."
With regard to enforcement, the report noted that "proceedings for
committal leading to fines and imprisonment is not only a crude way
of enforcing contact orders: it is also ineffective."
"The rule of law and the proper administration of justice both
required that lawful orders made by the court had to be obeyed by
those to whom they were addressed. It followed that the ultimate
power of the court to punish for disobedience of its orders had to be
retained, although imprisonment should only be used as a last resort
and in the most extreme circumstances, i.e. cases of flagrant,
blatant and inexcusable breaches of a court order. In practice, it
was recognised that the power to imprison was very rarely used," the
report said. However, it is to be made clear that imprisonment of
the mother is "an option, and not an empty threat."
The most important enforcement question, according to the report, is
the case "where the court finds that contact is in the best interests
of the child but is being irrationally frustrated" by the custodial
mother. The report suggests a number of remedies to be attempted
prior to imprisonment: referring the mother to a psychiatrist, force
the mother to attend parenting classes, sentencing to community
service work, assessing fines or even financial compensation to the
Enforcement is only a small part of this report. Other subjects
include the nature of court procedures, the role of lawyers, and the
problem of fathers who don't choose to see their children. (See
2/9/02 London Times story. Also, see the complete
report to the Lord Chancellor.)
For someone like myself who's become attuned to gender politics, it
was clear, reading between the lines, that the authors of the report
were quite fed up with women's groups' excusing every behavior by
custodial mothers on some vague accusation of abuse.
"We were both surprised and disappointed that all the women's groups
took us to task for our apparent failure to mention domestic violence
in the body of the [report]," laments the authors.
The report referred only indirectly to the fact that a child is more
likely to be abused, beaten or raped in his mother's home (by either
the mother or her boyfriend) than in the father's home. In response
to a feminist reference to a case where the father was violent, the
report refers to another case where "the mother of the children had
inflicted a number of stab wounds on the father with a carving knife
in a violent altercation shortly before the father left."
This report is one of a number or recent trends which appear to hold
women more accountable for their actions. It's consistent with the
recent court ruling which fines women who get restraining orders and then return
to live with the men who were supposedly battering them. In both
cases, part of the reasoning is that the integrity of the court is at
stake if women simply ignore court orders.
- Gender Differences in Olympic Tastes
- According to a new Gallup survey, men and women have different
tastes in their favorite Olympic sports.
Figure skating's status as the most favored event is mainly a result
of women's strong preference for that sport. Nearly half of women,
49%, say figure skating is their favorite event, easily outdistancing
the runner-up, downhill skiing, which is named by 18%. No other sport
receives even 5% mention from women.
Men's preferences are more varied. Among men, downhill skiing is the
favorite sport, mentioned by 29%. Figure skating (13%), bobsledding
(12%) and hockey (12%) are men's next most favorite events, although
all place well behind downhill skiing. Four percent of men say they
most enjoy ski jumping and luge. (See 1/22/02
Gallup News Service analysis of Olympic preferences.)
- New Census Bureau Report on Marriage Reports Grim Picture
- Nine out of ten people get married at least once, but 50% of
first marriages end in divorce, according to a new Census Bureau
report, their most comprehensive study of marriage trends in two
Other highlights of the report:
- 8% of adult men and 10% of adult women are currently
divorced. 20% of men and 22% of women have been divorced at least
- 13% of men and women have been married twice, and 3% of men and
women have been married three or more times.
- While 90% of couples married in the late 1940s reached their
10th anniversary, only 73% of those married in the early '80s reached
Princeton University Prof. Joshua Goldstein said divorce rates
started flattening out in the early 1980s and might have even
declined a bit since. But he said it's too early to tell whether the
more stable trend will continue. See
Census Bureau report, and
2/8/02 Minneapolis Star Tribune story
- Plenty Of Sex Advised for Successful Pregnancy
- Sex, and plenty of it, not only increases the odds of getting
pregnant, but also makes miscarriages and other problems less likely.
The reason? The woman's immune system becomes accustomed to the same
man's sperm over time, and lets the pregnancy continue. See
2/6/02 Reuters article.
- Are you a lonely man? We've got the girl for you!
- Looking for someone to love? Check out the romatic Mary's web
site http://www.maryromantic.com. This chick is pretty romantic,
and may be even a little more neurotic than some of the rest of us,
but hey -- if you can meet her numerous demands, you might have a
- Another Bizarre Abortion Fuss
- Q: How can you tell if a politician's lying? A: By watching to
see if his lips are moving.
Both pro-life and pro-choice nut case politicians and talking heads
are filling the air waves with hysterical nonsense over the Bush
administration's decision last week to provide prenatal care to
low-income women, expanding the coverage to embryos and fetuses from
the moment of conception, so that low-income pregnant women can gain
access to prenatal care.
The hysterical lip-flapping by people on both sides is based on the
following presumption: That by providing money in this way, fetuses
become "people," and therefore abortion will become illegal, since
it's killing "people."
Only a complete moron (or a politician) could possibly believe that.
The Supreme Court is as jealous of its prerogatives as anyone else,
and do you think the Supreme Court would stand by and let some
administration announcement mean the end of the Roe v Wade decision?
All nine of the justices would be so pissed off at that kind of
attempt, that they'd strike it down immediately by a vote of 9-0.
The Bush administration proposal to expand welfare coverage may be a
good idea or a bad idea on medical or fiscal grounds, but it will have
no affect whatsover on abortion law. But that won't stop the moron
politicians on both sides of the issue from using frenzied rhetoric
to pretend that it does. See
2/7/02 Oregon Live article, and NOW's
expression of outrage.
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