How our social organizations are broken
by by John J. Xenakis
I received several strong reactions to what I wrote in the last
issue. Many of the comments I get are from women criticizing me for
questioning the super-pure, pristeen, hallowed motives of feminist
social workers who are presumably doing God's work. Other women just
gloat to me because the system is so biased in their favor.
Women who criticize me or gloat don't realize that most of the
complaints I get about the system are from women who are concerned
about how their families are being destroyed.
One mother lost her teen daughter when the latter impetuously told a
doctor that her mother hit her. The social worker showed up to take
the daughter out of her parents' home almost immediately. When the
father packed a suitcase for his daughter to take with her, the
social worked wrote in her report that it was "suspicious behavior"
that he had packed her underclothes. It took eight months for them to
get back their daughter, just because of one remark made in a moment
of rebellion.
Another mother lost her two children, 9 and 13, when her next-door
neighbor, a woman with a grudge and strong local political
connections, reported to authorities that she'd heard the children
crying during home schooling. The kids were put into separate foster
homes. They both became ill, and one ran away. It took a year for
the parents to get them back.
This is the same system that women gloat about because social workers
always side with mothers in divorce and separation situations.
The reasons are the same: Social worker organizations make money when
they can keep children in the system. Foster parents get money, and
so do the social worker organizations that have to monitor them.
Even when there's no evidence that a parent abused anyone, the social
worker organizations have a huge economic incentive to call for
further evaluations, investigations, foster care, and follow ups.
This is how they make their money.
Falsely accused fathers are their biggest money source. On my web
site (
www.fraternizing.org, click on "The Battered Woman's Package"), I
document how social worker organizations made $321,000 from just one
divorced father.
That's a hell of a lot of money, and in that case the social workers
made out like bandits, and the children were left in the hands of an
abusive mother.
These social worker organizations are generally immune from
prosecution, so they can do what they want with impunity. Nobody
checks on them except other social worker organizations, and they
support each other to keep the money flowing in. The press never
looks at them. You've seen press reports on Enron and the Catholic
Church, but have you ever seen a Boston Globe Spotlight Report on
corruption at DSS, in probate courts, women's shelters, or visitation
centers?
That's why organizations like the Center of Hope, headed by Rosemarie
Greene, are so important. Organizations like these, which do not
accept taxpayer money or political favors, are what's need to really
reduce family violence.
(John J. Xenakis is author of the new book "Fraternizing with the
Enemy: A Book on Gender Issues for Men ... And For Women Who Care
About Men." His web site is
www.fraternizing.org.)
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